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How to cope
when your life implodes

OK, I confess to being a little bit hyperbolic. But I am (for real) going to give you a formula for this, and it's a good story...

July 17, 2025​

 

I hurt my hand Monday :( 

 

Like a lot of people, I have ongoing RSI issues. And over the weekend I pushed things just a little bit too far, and ended up impaired in a new and very inconvenient way. Which meant I was doing almost no work this week.

This email is one of the few things I’ll accomplish.

 

As I’ve mentioned before, Agile is an approach used to pursue goals successfully despite change, uncertainty, and interruptions. Injuring my hand could be called a change (in capacity) or an interruption (of my work plans). In this case it doesn’t really matter what you call it.

 

First of all: I never make a plan without assuming that it might be interrupted or changed. Part of this is ADHD, part of this is just life as a disabled person. (I just told you about the RSI, you’ll learn the rest if you read enough of these emails.) But “never make a plan without assuming something might happen to it” is one of the most successful life strategies I’ve ever adopted.

 

Second of all…

You know what? It’s 7 o’clock on a Thursday and this is getting long. I’m just gonna give you the TLDR version:

  1. Check your backlog
    if you haven’t worked with me yet, there’s a lot to unpack from the statement. Stick around: it will make sense eventually.
     

  2. Figure out which 10% of it absolutely must get done
    Yes I really did say 10%. Achieving your goals under conditions of uncertainty and change (or ADHD, or disability, or the enormous amount of fuckwittery currently going on in Washington) means knowing which 90% of your workload you can cut if you absolutely have to. The #1 mistake I see people make - both the (ND) people I coach and the (NT) corporate clients I used to consult for - was trying to do too much.

    For me, under these conditions, this week, that meant:

    • Client appointments (which involve minimal hand stuff and are mostly talking)

    • Doctors appointments

    • And this!
       

  3. Pivot
    If your old plan isn’t going to work, then it’s time to make a new one. Ask yourself: what new opportunities does this change of circumstances create?
    OK I wasn’t going to be able to do the things I originally planned for this week. But: 

    • Feeling sorry for myself wasn’t going to get me anywhere (and it's a huge bummer).

    • There are ways to adapt my plans to get things done that I need to.

      I might not be able to do all of the mousing and keyboard work necessary to create a presentation, but (thanks to the miracles of VTT) I can write.

    • I had a new opportunity: to show you how Agile4ADHD works in real life.
       

Last week, I promised some tips about how to get the best possible return on the work you’re able to do, and how to recover when distractions (inevitably) happen. I can’t think of a better start to that conversation than this. Come to this month’s free workshop, and I’ll tell you more :)

Come with your to-do list. Leave with clarity, momentum, and a plan.

When: Tuesday, July 22, 12-1 p.m. (Pacific)

Where: Zoom (details given at registration)

Amy has been tremendously helpful with improving my workflow and productivity. I’ve made significant progress on personal goals and learned a lot about how much work I can realistically expect myself to do. I would recommend Amy without reservation.

“Amy is a sincere, earnest and insightful coach. She’s always been able to generate intuitive, complex responses to my questions. As an independent, successful entrepreneur for over a decade, I’m not a quick “follower” and need a solutions-oriented perspective."

When you get to connect with her, you'll discover an amazing, broad-minded, and detail oriented person. I strongly endorse Amy and would welcome the opportunity to work with her again. 

Nicholas Macauley

Partner, Brandekko

About my approach: why Agile is so effective with ADHD

Agile was designed to require as little working memory and general executive function as possible in order to free up such resources for other tasks. Also - while not designed for ADHD per se - it WAS designed for the degree of uncertainty and interruption typical of life with ADHD. Here are a few examples of what applied Agile methodology looks like for ADHD:

  • Agile integrates rhythmic self-correction - The “inspect and adapt” approach so characteristic of Agile was designed to catch the kinds of omissions and mistakes typical of living with ADHD. These cycles serve to constantly scan for impediments to productivity and opportunities for improvement. 

 

  • Agile teaches better estimation - which ADHD sufferers tend to be particularly bad at. The cyclical predict-execute-and-review process provides the necessary feedback for developing this skill, and the experimental structure of Agile facilitates the evolution of a personalized framework to substitute for the NT executive function.

 

  • Automation & Delegation - Agile practice emphasizes delegating human work (especially anything boring or repetitive) to automated processes whenever possible. Password managers, automated payments, and other forms of personal automation are immensely helpful in offloading executive function tasks to more reliable substitutes

 

  • Simplification - Agile is largely about the process of breaking down big, uncertain, complicated things into smaller, manageable, simpler things; focusing/solving each one, and then putting the solutions together to achieve a complete whole. 

I have 15 years of experience in the field (mostly at tech companies). My approach is direct, practical, and action oriented. 

Let me show you how this works

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Amy creates the right mix of structure, awareness, and accountability, making it easier to navigate change.

 

She doesn’t just offer answers — she helps you discover your own. I’ve gained a lot from our work together and look forward to continuing.

Milica Stefancic

Manager, Experience Design Lab

“Working with Amy is helping me market my business in my local community and make the most of the network connections I have.  At each meeting, she encourages me to look for new opportunities.  I like that I can create a list of goals to meet between appointments. 

 

It's refreshing that she accounts for interruptions that may arise between appointments.  Amy is a great thought partner!  She has a lot of wisdom to share.

Thank you for helping me think through my client engagement and accountability AND for helping me move forward to my next step!

 

You set me up for a great 2025!

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